Keith and I just gave his ex-wife notice of the time we will be taking with the kids for summer vacation. This is always an anxious time for me as this inevitably starts off a vicious chain reaction. Although this visitation time is court ordered and exercised most every year, actually giving notice about taking it sets off a firestorm of a reaction in the other parent. Back when the kids were young the excuses for us not to have that time with them ranged from them being too young to be away from home that long to them not wanting to come to our house. Now that they are older the refrain is they are too busy with their activities to come and also they don't want to come. Needless to say the excuses are hurtful and damaging to the kid's relationship with us as I am sure their other parent's opinion about them coming to our house comes through and colors how they feel about the experience themselves.
I can't help but hope, as the e-mail was sent off, that this year may be different. Maybe it is the social worker in me but I keep hoping that change will come and with it a sense of peace with this difficult situation.
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